Happy Valentine's Day! Do You Know How To Treat A Lady?

[Ruby]

      Yeah, I have been saving some very usefull tips for this very occasion: some boys need to be told "useful tips" for such special days. Remember that, most of all, every human being wants to be appreciated. The more genuine and specific you are, the better. I've just received some written ideas also on an e-mail from a friend and I thought I'd share them with you.

      If you are in a relationship with a girl, respect her future. The fact is, you might not end up being "the one". Don't do anything that will compromise her future because of something you did. If you aren't ready to be a father, don't work the relationship that way. If you don't like "used goods" then don't ruin her possibilities by turning her into them. Let her talk about herself.

      Find out about her hobbies by asking questions about the kind of music she likes, observing her environment, and asking about clothes or pictures she might have. Compliment her. Say that her hair looks nice or she has a cool shirt on. Mean it. Keep it real.

      A small gift is a nice touch. Tell her she is pretty. No matter how average your looks may be, a girl will usually be flattered and pleased to know you think she is attractive. Say "You've got the most beautiful eyes/hair/skin/hands/etc. I've ever seen" and again - mean it! Take a shower, put on deodorant, and brush your teeth right before you see her - every time. Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable than body odor and/or bad breath.

      Listen! You need to be a good listener. That works with most of the girls, they need someone who will patiently listen and understand them! There is a huge difference between "Hearing" and "Listening" so make sure you don't just "hear" her. Pay close attention to what she is saying and really "listen" to her from your heart!

      Let her know about things she might be interested in. This will show her you remembered and are thinking about her, and the things she likes. Don't forget her special occasions - especially her birthday. Be truthful, there is no need to lie.

      Make her feel comfortable. Relax and enjoy the time you spend together. If she is upset with you, listen carefully to the reasons why. Repeat or reflect her feelings so that she knows you really heard her. If it makes sense to you, apologize for your actions that upset her. If you feel you were in the right, however, tell her you didn't realize your actions would hurt her and you're sorry to cause her pain, and that you'll have to consider more carefully next time. As mentioned earlier - keep it real. Do NOT promise never to do it again if you don't intend to keep that promise. If the thing that upsets her is a thing that is fundamental to your personality, you might not be able to change it to a degree that will make her comfortable, and that may mean you will eventually have to part ways.

      Being honest during the dating process means you respect her wants and needs, but you also recognize your own. If you find yourself always apologizing or trying to soothe her ruffled feathers, you need to honestly decide whether or not the two of you are a match. Treating a girl well also means recognizing this truth, and telling her in a way that hurts as little as possible - as soon as you know. Don't string her along in order to get that last concert you paid for.

      This should be "enough" for you to know how to treat a lady on such a special like today. The video above goes out to all the lovers who will read this article. I wish you all the best and to be loved by whomever you want!